Every one of us has a dream.   Believe it or not, this is mine.  Early on, I distinguished myself as a speaker and trainer.  I also developed a passion for how people who become leaders, how groups work together, and how people grow.  Combining those two into what I do now creates that perfect avenue for me.  Am I totally there?  No, but I am moving forward in that direction.
What about you?  What’s your dream?  What’s that thing you have always wanted to be or always wanted to do? What’s the thing that keeps you up at night with a vision of how things will be when you get there?  Even more to the point, what are doing to get there?  Do you have a plan in place?  bigstock-Businessman-showing-the-way-to-33703298
If you are like most people you are saying “Oh, yeah, I got it all right up here up in my head!”  Unfortunately, that almost never works.  You need to get it down on paper.  A plan on paper has a higher level of commitment to it that just keeping it in your mind doesn’t have.  In addition, putting your plan down in print (or web) gives you the opportunity to sort it out and arrange it.  Your plan has more than just an idea, it has structure and a timeline and deadlines.  Without that plan you are going to have a very hard time getting to where you want to go.  Yeah, you are special and maybe you are that one in a million that will actually do it; but do you want to risk your dream on the extremely remote chance that you might become successful without a written plan?
The funny, almost ironic thing about it is that you will likely not reach that goal following that plan precisely.  Things get in the way that make plans change.  Dwight D. Eisenhower once said “plans are useless, but planning is essential!”  So the plan changes, but your decision to get there never does.  So your plan is going to change, it’s going to evolve.  But it’s a start.  So, you have to get that plan down on paper (or on the computer).
So how do you get there?  How do you get that plan down on paper and get yourself that good start?  Start by thinking backwards.  Look forward to about 2-5 years from now.  Where do you want to be, what do you want be, what do you want to be doing?  Now backtrack from that.  Where should you be four years from now to be on track.  Three years from now?  Two years from now?  Within the next year?  Backtrack all the way.  And when you get down to a granular level, then you are looking at what you have to do on a weekly and daily basis to reach your goal.  John Maxwell says that your real success will be found in your daily activities.  Plan your daily activities to be working towards your goals and accept nothing less.  And that’s how you plan out your success.

IComplicated like the title here; not only because it is somewhat catchy, but also because this week Sherry and I celebrated 18 years of marriage.  She has been a tremendous blessing in my life and has believed in me even when I have not always believed in myself (yes, it happens to everyone).  So, certainly a kiss has been on my mind.

It’s also an acronym, of course, for Keep It Simple, Silly, the admonition originating with either the Navy or Lockheed’s Skunkworks depending on who you believe.  It’s a reminder for me at least that in the midst of complexity I need to fall back on simplicity.  Especially when I communicate, I need to keep it simple.  As a speaker, there is a tendency to want to create complex, intricate phrases and flowery statements because it is important that we sound like we know what we are talking about.  But my objective isn’t to boost my reputation, it’s to communicate something I believe is important enough to share.  Therefore, I need to keep my message simple.

I have been participating in a discussion on LinkedIn with other professional speakers about whether you should memorize your speech and just get the main points down in a outline and speak off the cuff.  Naturally, it is a polarizing topic for those who care about those kinds of details.  The pro-memorize people believe it helps you sound more professional and polished.  The pro-outline people believe it makes you sound less rehearsed and you speak more from the heart.

For me, I have a hard time writing it down unless it comes from my heart.  And I can’t possibly do an outline, it’s just not the way I think.  And I think it misses the point.  The point is to communicate with your audience; not just spew information, but communicate.  To communicate, you have to first connect with the person or audience to whom you are speaking. Without that connection, your words fall basically on deaf ears.  You may get nods of acknowledgement, but you won’t get action and you certainly won’t get any commitment.  And this is true whether it is a speech before a large audience, addressing a board of directors, one-on-one with an employee or boss, or speaking to your best friend or your spouse or child.

Here’s the thing:  no one connects precisely the same way as someone else.  And this is where the discussion on LinkedIn goes awry.  For some, the only way they can have the opportunity to effectively connect with someone is if they feel secure in the words and expression and may only get that from memorization and rehearsal.  Others may feel uncomfortable delivering by rote and if you are uncomfortable then there is no way you can make anyone else comfortable; therefore you won’t make a connection.  So those people work best by speaking from the heart, letting the words flow as they may.  So the point is don’t worry about choosing this way or that way; let your mind and heart get together and create the flow.  And don’t forget the most critical way you communicate:  LISTEN!

Think of someone you have needed to communicate with for a long time.  Make that today.